Practice makes perfect... Right?
posted by jeut @ 12:27 AM
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jeut
This is not fiction.
Monday, April 24, 2006
About Me
- Name: jeut
I assure you this is not fiction. Jeut is what you would see if you opened the top of my head and looked inside.
Background
- How it Happened - Part I
- How it Happened - Part II
- Reality Television
- When worlds collide...
- Gym
- Electronic Time Capsules
If you're new here, these few entries will help you understand Jeut and his story a little better.
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6 Comments:
Nothing like a dress rehearsal before the big show. Good luck :).
Thanks. :-) I'm still deciding if the big show should go ahead or not... *sigh* decisions, decisions.
There comes a time in a relationship when you have to confront the other person and clear the air.
Read my post on:
melbournestories.blogspot.com/2006/04/shark-fin.html
Communication my friend - it is the key. Half the time at the end of the relationship, the party who wants to leave is looking for the best way to end the relationship. Sometimes that takes the form of going out, boozing, and almost goading the other person into making the break, other times it's a cessation in communication (sorta what I'm seeing with you)
Good luck with it. Talk to, nay, talk with her about her feelings, your feelings. But don't act out of anger or hurt.
Thanks Nick.
I had a read of that post - hehehe. Loved the art school stuff.
It's those exact reasons I love the movie "Closer". It's liking holding a mirror up to myself, which is both facinating and repulsive at the same time.
Anyway... Yeah. I've heard it all, and thought it all. She definately has communication issues - when she can actually put aside some of her precious time to actually communicate with me.
But don't worry about me being angry. I'm not that kinda guy. Whilst I *feel* that way, I'd never *act* that way. When the breakup finally arrives, I'm actually thinking it will go pretty smoothly. It's just everything up until that point which is horrible.
Give her a chance to realise what life is like...without you in it. Make yourself less available, be less contactable... she cant miss you while you're still there.
I know it sounds backward but trust me, it works. The distance will give you clarity and help you heal.
While you're not with her, you have to keep busy. Socialising is the balm for your wounds. See that movie. Visit that old book store. Contact friends you have been neglecting. Go for a ride on your bike. Anything to keep yourself busy. Day by day, you'll get stronger and realise how quality time with someone is important.
If you continue to settle for the crumbs of her time that is all she has to provide. You deserve more.
Thanks, honeysmack. :-)
As you've probably guessed, that's exactly what I've done. Since we've broken up now, she has all the time in the world to realise life without me in it.
But you're right, I'm not going to settle for the leftover crumbs of her time. That analogy sums up the last little while PERFECTLY. As much as I still like her, you're right again, I deserve better. And it hurts, but that's life.
So yeah, I'm keeping busy. I already realise how quality time with someone is important, but I think that SHE doesn't realise it. *sigh* Back to the drawing board for me I guess.
PS: Just rereading my previous comments, Nick, the breakup did go pretty smoothly. No anger was involved. We spoke to each other online after the breakup (4 days ago) but haven't since. It's easier to give her (and myself) space now that it's a clear break.
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