This is not fiction.
posted by jeut @ 7:37 PM
That’s better done before you find your next romance rather then after your next girl finds them in your phone.Besides wounds leave less scars if you dig the crap out of them rather then letting it fester.
Awww... I know exactly how this feels!
( g'morning ) 7:45Am, coffee still hot. I did this last night, too. On my cell fone. Deleted all old msgs. Now mind you, mine were not as passionate as any of yours can be described as. But nonetheless, we don't throw away letters until we WANT to, and yet our electrical devices make those emotional decisions for us...Have a good Saturday. Hell, yours may be 1/2 over by now. ( are you going out tonight? )
Sucks to have to do that.
*Sympathetic sigh*I don't really have written time capsules. I never do electronic text since I don't like to leave a visible record of anything to do with feelings or personal thoughts. And I have an absolutely wicked memory for verbal conversation. So, you know...the case of always playing in your strong field =)
PearlJam: Haha, true, true. Then again, I keep every single one of my old love letters - why not love SMS? Ahh, the art of the love letter is dying. :(Agreed on the festering, too.Missy: Thanks. It's hard to cherish the moments we had when they reopen wounds we thought we'd recovered from.~d: Good morning! I sure did go out Saturday night, and I did have a huge one. Unfortunately they were not as eventful as the last two weekends, so I may or may not draw something from them. ;)Yes... Interesting point re: digital emotional decisions. I guess I COULD have stuck my SIM in my PC and backed up the SMS's to my desktop, but would it have been worth it? I'm not sure.JackT: Yeah. Cheers bro. :)Jen: *mental note; never argue with Jen* :-P
I still have emails from someone that are getting close to 2 years old. I know I can't go back to those times, but I can't bring myself to delete them.
I had to do this once but for different reasons than yours, but just as sentimental and highly emotional. I took a digital photo of the messages, then hit delete.But as the first commenter said, better to purge now than having to carry them with you. The memory could return when you're on the mend and totally disrupt your state of mind.Letting go is never easy.*hugs*
Gav: I know the feeling. It's strange, though, that I can delete the SMS's but not throw away love letters. I still think there's something slightly intangible about the digital message mediums.ChickyBabe: Wow, that's full-on. Then again, I guess in a way I've archived some of mine too, just on paper with texta. ;)Letting go has been hard. Particularly this weekend. Thanks for the hugs. :)
It is technically still Saturday night: 4:30AM. But, I have to go back to sleep. I am trying to do this whole chritian religion thing with my kids to give them this like-foundation that I didn't have and all. But its tough b/c the service we like is at 8:30...and unless I either go back to sleep or pop an adderall I will never make it past 7.(undecided )When you 'go out' what do you DO? I stay in b/c of the kids and all, but we still chill and relax and have an open door policy so yuou kind of never know who you are going to FIND here: especially on a Friday night.
it's the 'emotion box full' thing that is more of a problem than inbox full thing. you know? it had to be done love.
~d: "Going out" generally involves hitting the town, meeting up with friends, downing a few beverages, dancing the night away, joking, chatting. You know, that kind of thing. :)M: Yeah, exactly. Cheers. :)
i'm not 100% sure, but i know that there is something you can use on nokia cells to store all sms's and e-mails.........i think it's lifeblog, that would so help the problem of being forced to delete......oh and i like the blog and enjoy reading it so can i put it on my blogroll? :)
jeut: gotcha, same thing I did when the dinosaurs roamed the Earth back in the 80's and 90's.lexi: blogroll makes me think of sushi. what do you suppose would be in a blogroll? salmon? tuna? Mmmm.
aw - isn't that horrible? i've experienced the same thing - feels like you're deleting part of your life huh?
It's cleansing and it makes you stronger *hugs*I was hanging on to various 'i love you' messages long after the love expired. Next step, delete the names from your phone. Although it's really difficult when you receive a message and can't recognise the number :-I You could do i what i did, renamed my former boyfriend 'boofhead' can't take anything he says seriously after that one :-)
Renaming them something childish is... well childish =P no offence Natalie.Deleting them is almost an act removing them from your life.Working out how much, or if at all, an ex-is going to be a part of your life is probably one of the hardest things any one will ever have to do.I always had good intentions of maintaining a friendship, but for whatever reason the relationship ended that same reason prevented a friendship.Actually I think I wanted to maintain the friendships because I didn’t want to hurt them... but in the end they just got on my nerves too much, hence the above statement.The current one, well pray it doesn’t end but if it does I want the friendship for the simple reason that thinking about not having her there hurts too much.So Jeut can you delete her?
Lexi: You certainly may, and thanks for the interest. :)Thanks re: lifeblog. I'll check it out sometime. :) But as I said, I don't feel as compelled to keep SMS from an old flame as I do physical letters.~d: That's hot like hypercolour! :-P Ahhh, 80's. How I miss them. Best. Music. Ever.Lil' Karen: Basically, yeah. :-\Natalie: Thanks :) Hahaha, I've only ever renamed ONE person in my phone. She was a friend whom I had a severe falling out with. I renamed her to "Moral Police", only because when I'd get abusive SMS from her, it'd seem soooo much funnier. Hahaha.PearlJam: Haha, it's a little childish, but feels good! :-PCan I delete her? Can I keep her? I can't answer either question right now. :-\Good luck with your current. :)
( maybe a Magic 8 Ball? )
It's a little bit sad that once you delete the messages remembering the nice parts becomes so much harder...
Virtual Bonfires.delete delete delete.If it was important, you have it in your heart, you dont need to see it.
I'm with Kerry on this oneDelete Delete Delete
it's scary good - great-glad to have found you!
Eek, so busy right now. Thanks everyone for your continuing interest and support! :-D~d: My sources say yes.m.t.g: Yeah, true, but on the other side, the messages stir up the pain as well. :-( So maybe it's for the best.Kerry: I need virtual lighter fluid. :-P Haha. Nice work re: heart.Jayne: Gone, gone, gone. :-)Maddy: Thanks very much! :-) *blush*
I think its time you gave up your day job and were drawing just for us...full time. Though...busy is good.
Hehe, awww, you're too kind. ;-)Actually... about my job... I might not have to give it up. :-\ But more on that later.I have done a few more sketches, but no time to upload just yet. When I get back to a PC (I'm on my mobile phone at the moment) then I'll put them up.
I know how hard this is. Unfortunatley for me, i saved some to my actual phone, so unless i buy a whole new phone, they're always going to be there :(
Aww. :-(Can't delete them off your phone?Maybe they'll get caught up in a torrent of saved messages and you won't have to look at them again...
Jeut- Wow. Just discovered your blog from Ms. Fits's Friday Questions. This is the best new blog I've seen in ages. Seriously. -Susanne
Thank you VERY much, Susanne! :-DIt's kind people words like that which keep my optimism alive. :-)
haha I can relate all too well! even a simple smiley, sometimes I struggle to try to remove.=)
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